If we want to grow inwardly we must find new ways to learn about
ourselves. These higher discoveries call for higher learning. Think of
each of the following eleven laws as individual magic strands of a
flying carpet. Make it your aim to weave them together in your
mind. Then watch how these lessons combine to effortlessly lift
you to a higher and happier life level.
The First Law:
Nothing can stop you from starting over.
The greatest power you possess for succeeding in life is your
understanding that life gives you a fresh start any moment you choose
to start fresh. Nothing that stood in your way even a heartbeat before
stands there now in the same way. It’s all new, even if you can’t as
yet see it that way. You’ve only to test the truth of this fact
about the newness of life to discover the incredible freedom that waits
for you just behind it. And then nothing can stop you. You’ll
know the real secret and the perfect power of starting over.
The Second Law:
Don’t be afraid to see when something doesn’t work.
Learn to be sensitive and to listen to the inner signals that try and
tell you when something isn’t working. You know what they are.
Frustration and resentment to name just a few. The presence of these
emotional troubles aren’t trying to tell you that you can’t succeed,
only that the road you’ve insisted upon taking so far doesn’t lead
where you want. Learning to admit when something isn’t working is the
same as teaching yourself what will.
The Third Law:
If it doesn’t flow, there’s more to know.
Learn to recognize all forms of strain — whether at work, in your
creative efforts, or in your relationships — as being unnecessary. The
friction you feel mounting when busy at some labor is never caused by
the task at hand, but by what you don’t yet know about it. This means
the only real reason for your strain is that you’ve got hold of a wrong
idea you don’t yet see as wrong. This new insight allows you to release
yourself by showing you what you need to know. Flowing follows your new
knowing.
The Fourth Law:
Don’t take the easy way.
There’s no getting away from what you don’t know, which is why any time
you feel compelled to go around a problem by taking the easy way, that
problem always comes round again. And isn’t that what makes life seem
so hard? Learn to see the “easy way” as a lying thought that keeps you
tied up and doing hard time. Getting something over is not the same as
having it completed. And as this insight grows, so will your
understanding that the whole idea of the “hard way” has always been
just a lying thought as well. Now you know: the complete way is the
easy way. So volunteer to make the “hard way” your way and learn the
real easy way.
The Fifth Law
On the other side of the resistance is the flow.
There are often times when it feels as though you can’t go any farther
in your work or studies. But you can learn to go beyond any
blockage. Make the following clear to yourself. Those moments —
when it feels as though you’re least able to get beyond yourself — are
not telling you that you’ve gone as far as you can go, but only reveal
that you’ve reached as far as you know — for now. This higher
self-knowledge about your true inner position allows you to see the
resistance you’re feeling for what it really is: a threshold, and not a
closed door. Walk through it. Nothing can stop you. On the other
side of the resistance is the flow. Learning to go beyond you is the
same as entering into the new.
The Sixth Law:
Watch for the opportunity to learn something new.
Everything is changing all the time. That means life is an endless
occasion for learning something new. But this means more than meets the
eye. Just as you’re a part of everything, everything is a part of you.
The whole of life is connected. And your ability to learn is part of
the wonder of this complete, but ever-changing whole. Learning serves
as a window, not only into the complex world you see around you, but
through it you may also look into the you that’s busy looking into the
world. And when you’ve learned there’s no end to what you can see about
the amazing worlds spinning both around and within you, you’ll also
know there’s no end to you. So stay awake. Learn something new every
day. You’ll love how that makes you feel about yourself.
The Seventh Law:
Learn to see conclusions as limitations.
If you approach the possibilities of learning about your life as being
limitless, which they are, then it follows that any conclusion you
reach about yourself has to be an unseen limitation. Why? Because
there’s always more to see. For instance, let yourself see that all
conclusions are illusions when it comes to the security they promise.
There may be security in a prison, but there are also no choices behind
its confining walls. Learn to see all conclusions about yourself as
invisible cells. For that’s what they are. The seeming security these
conclusions offer are a poor substitute for the real security of
knowing that who you really are is always free to be something higher.
The Eighth Law:
Have no fear about being afraid.
Fear can’t learn, which is why you must learn about fear if you ever
wish to be a fearless learner. So, the first thing you must learn is
how to get past your fear of being afraid. Here’s how. The next time a
fear of some kind tries to fill one of your moments, try to see the
difference between the fact of your situation and your feelings about
it. This it the right use of your mind. For instance, it’s a fact that
interest rates change. It’s not a fact you have to get scared when they
do. That fear is not a fact of life, but only becomes one for you as
long as you insist that life perform according to what you think are
your best interests. As you learn to see that these fearful feelings
don’t belong to you, but only to your wrong thinking, you cease to be
afraid, even of your own fears.
The Ninth Law:
Never accept defeat.
As long as it’s possible to learn, you need never feel tied down by any
past defeat in your life. Here’s the real fact: nothing can prevent the
inwardly self-educating man or woman from succeeding in life. And
here’s why: wisdom always triumphs over adversity. But to win real
wisdom calls you to join in a special kind of struggle. And if this
battle had a banner under which to rally, here’s what would be written
upon that higher call to arms: “But I can find out!” Yes, you can learn
the facts. You may not understand how you could have been blind to that
evil person’s real intentions, but you can find out. Take these four
words that are freedom’s battle cry: I can find out! Use them to defeat
what’s defeating you.
The Tenth Law:
Learn to let go of painful pretense.
Most people approach their troubles with one of these two
non-solutions: they either pretend their problem isn’t a problem, or
they pretend they’ve solved their troubles with temporary cover-ups.
But their pain remains. It doesn’t have to be this way for you. You can
learn to let go of painful pretense. Here’s how. When facing an old
problem, what you don’t want is another “new way” to deal with it. What
you really want is to learn something new about the true nature of what
has a hold on you. To go far, start near. When faced with any pain, let
go of what you think you know. Act towards your trouble as if you don’t
know anything about it. This new solution is the only true one because
the truth is you don’t know what the real problem is. Otherwise you
wouldn’t still have it. Letting go what you think you know puts you in
the right place for learning what you need to know.
The Eleventh Law:
Persistence always prevails.
If you’ll persist with your sincere wish for higher learning, you can’t
help but succeed. Persistence always prevails because part of its power
is to hold you in place until either the world lines up with your wish,
or you see that your wish is out of line. But, for whichever way it
turns in that moment, you’ve won something that only persistence can
pay. See the following: if you get what you think you have to have to
be happy and you’re still not satisfied, then you’ve learned what you
don’t want. Now you can go on to higher things. And should you learn
you’ve been wearing yourself out with useless wishes, then this
discovery allows you to turn your energies in a new direction: self
liberation.
This article was excerpted from “Freedom from the Ties that Bind” by Guy Finley.